Become your own Hero

I guide driven men into elevating the quality of their thoughts and emotions. Upgrade your internal hardware and go on the adventure of your life.

The pain of repeating the same patterns has become greater than the staying the same.

Gentlemen. You want to live a life of freedom, peace and achievement with deeply fulfilling relationships but can’t seem to make the connections.

Here are some of the patterns you may be experiencing:

👉Thoughts run uncontrolled

👉Worry, anxiety, fear(whatever you call it) is an undercurrent

👉Consistently not present in life, often somewhere else

👉Thinking….. “Is this all there is to life?”

👉Uncertain of your place in the world

👉Lacking purpose, direction, motivation and confidence

👉Abundantly concerned about what others think of you

👉Checking life’s boxes and still there’s a big void

👉Anger is an underlying tension that gets stuffed down until it comes out sideways

👉Fearful of a future that hasn’t happened dictated by a history that doesn’t exist any longer

👉The relationship with yourself and others is dull, uninspiring, maybe even harmful

If you fall into any of these descriptions, it’s probably not your fault. You simply have not learned the skills to navigate your complex system.

This is were it all changes…..

If you ain’t for you, who is?

(Are you the guy ready to do the work)

The Problem

You've probably tried a lot already: books, podcasts, courses, religion, faith, advice from friends. Some of it helped for a while. Most of it faded.

That isn't a lack of discipline. Most self-improvement works like adding apps to a phone whose hardware is out of date and whose storage is nearly full. The apps are good, and the intentions behind them are good. But when stress hits, they crash, and they end up in the pile of things you meant to follow through on.

Getting to the hardware means looking at the deep-rooted thoughts and emotions that run your life. That takes more time and patience than simply adding another tool, which is why most people never do it.

The Solution

#1: You recognize pain points in your life and have had enough.

#2: You are curious about the unknown possibilities of massive personal development.

#3: You are willing to do the work. This work is simple, but it’s not easy.

I am Ryan Ragain and my method that drastically improves the lives of men is called Soul Work.

We take a thorough look under the hood of your existence to disrupt unhealthy thought and emotional patterns while developing new tools to navigate a bright future.

What Soul Work is

Soul Work is a guided journey inward. It works with your deep-rooted thoughts and behaviors, your breath, and the part of you that no achievement has ever filled.

This isn't about aiming at another goal. It's a journey toward inner peace: being content in most circumstances of your life, while learning to balance the outer world and your inner conditions. Together, we work on:

  • Noticing what your body is telling you, since that's where emotion begins

  • Feeling your emotions instead of stuffing them or lashing out

  • Using anger as a tool and a source of information, not a reaction

  • Understanding your thoughts and emotions, which are the driving forces in your life

  • Being present with the people in front of you

As the relationship with yourself improves, the relationships around you tend to follow. Like a coach working with an athlete, I guide you through the process, the repetitions, so you can go out into the testing grounds of life with a new presence. 

Two things are required of the men I work with:

  1. You must be in pain. The pain, or void in your life, is too great to keep walking the same path.

  2. You must be searching for answers. You must be curious.

Are you the guy that has had enough?

Who This Is For

This is for you if:

  • You've checked the boxes of a good life and still feel an unsettled void

  • You keep chasing the next goal, hoping it will finally be enough

  • Anger, worry, or tension runs in the background of your days. AKA: your life sucks.

  • You've tried the usual self-help and it never stuck

  • You're ready to look inward, even if you're not sure what you'll find

Who this is not for

This is not for you if:

  • You're looking for a quick fix. The work is simple, but it's not fast or easy

  • You want another app, tip, or tool without looking at what's underneath

  • You want someone to fix you instead of doing the work yourself

I can help you catch your own fish, but I can't catch the fish for you.

“There has got to be a better way.”

I'm Ryan Ragain, a Guide for Men.

At 45, life was not looking good.

  • My body and mind were a wreck. Decades of chronic back problems left me constantly pissed and volatile. I was half out of my mind in pain all the time, which resulted in piano-wire tension that spilled out in ways I'm not proud of.

  • My marriage was struggling, and I believed I could no longer steer it in a good direction.

  • My relationship with my kids wasn't where I wanted it to be.

  • My career as a carpenter and builder was draining my soul instead of filling it.

Then I started asking myself one big question: How is it that some people move through life with relative ease, while others struggle every step of the way?

I was one of the strugglers, like I was hammering a square peg into a round hole.

After a lot of thought, I came to a big answer: my struggles were a direct result of how I think and how I act. That meant the only way forward was to change both, which led to a second big question: How do I change how I think and how I act?

Answering that took years of traveling into the unknown. I began living a life I never knew was possible, and I experienced things I never knew existed. I found my purpose.

It became clear that the rest of my days would be devoted to continuously elevating my internal state and teaching other men what I've learned.